Your words have power, use them wisely !!
Parents had come to the school to know why their child was behaving differently at home and also to know whether a similar change was seen at the school.
We checked with the class teacher and the other teachers who used to interact with the children in his group. The response was ‘No change in his behavior’.
When we enquired with the parents, the parents complained that the child was ignoring his mother and her instructions and would always obey his father.
After hearing from the parents, it was our turn to ask the child, in a one-on-one session, the reason behind his altered behavior at home. With the bits of information, that we could collect from the child himself, we could get to know that the mother had vaguely answered the child’s simple request.
The child had asked his mother to apply nail polish onto her toes as his teacher would do and come to his school. The mother had replied that the teacher was young and she had all the time in the world for her grooming, but, at her house, as a mother of three children, she had many other house chores to look into.
The story had not stopped at that, on another day, when the child’s father had asked her to change her attire while going out, she had conveniently obliged to do so. Here, the child was an observer, and could translate the response to his request as a ‘denial with a grumpy face’ and the response to his father’s command as a ‘consent with a smile’. You know, words have power !!
You never know how a child takes every word spoken to it.
After discussing with the mother, she could know how powerful her words were and how she would have to speak to her four-year-old henceforth !!
The power of positive words can change the behavior and perception of the receiver in any given situation. Your words have power, use them wisely !! www.psychologytoday.com
Namaste Ma’am,
Your blog is an eye opener. It proves that a child’s character starts developing at home.
Thank you for the most valuable information.
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Nice article, we what n how we speak has a very big bearing on child
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Well, it’s been a long time since I have read an article. It’s very crucial for a student to build up a positive relationship with a parent or a teacher. This article was mind blowing. And I could totally connect it with my school days and a few situations with my parents. Thanks for article again. Looking forward to read more article for students!
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Thanks for the information mam…This made me realize a lot on how important it is to have not just a simple communication but rather an understanding one be it a simple response to a request or giving a command and also to communicate depending on their age also. This also reminded me how affecting can our words be on our children irrespective of the circumstances.
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Very Interesting write up, it’s food for your thought. Relationship between a child and parent/teacher is a two way street. If you oblige to some of your child’s requests, it will be reciprocated when you want them to do something for you. The child in the article was more upset that his mom took his fathers request seriously and not his. We as adults are always demanding respect and compliance from children, what we should realize is that respect is earned.
Thank You !! Can understand how you feel and what you go through as an educator !