Positive Discipline - A Student Parent Teacher Guide

Hello Readers,

I welcome my readers to sit and read through the content and reflect to realize how fortunate you are to be blessed with many good moments and opportunities in life. While reading, you may sail through a surge of beautiful memories which you have had in the past. And, also the opportunities you were given to correct yourself during the long haul of growing years.

In today’s everyday routine, everybody is behind a fast- paced life, yet, dreaming about a calm, peaceful ( mundane life style ! pun intended !!) happily-ever-after life !

Take a look at the mention-worthy attribute which can work like a magic wand in life!!

Coming to the topic on hand, Positive discipline, let me ask you a few questions- what should we do If we have to have a joyous, hassle free life ? what should we aim at ? Do we have to tailor our perception and the way we react to the situations by blending easily with our good-spirited people?

From now, honestly, we shall dive deep and dissect our inner strengths and weakness to know more about our personality disposition.

when we discuss about the conduct or the virtue called ‘Discipline’, do we shift the goal post to school climate?

Are not the parents obligated for a positive, well grooming of their child?

Should only the teachers take the blame for the audacity and misbehavior in society? or should the parents be blamed for their upbringing?

1. Positive behaviour………positive outlook

We want people around us to approve of our views, accept us however we are, praise us for our contribution to the area of our occupation, and follow us as role models, and in return, we want to have a hassle-free life with no-frills attached.

Are we having a life with Positive discipline to exhibit? Only when we have praiseworthy qualities, we can have a trophy of good valuable life with minimum stress. Do you agree with me?

What is positive discipline?

I call this, a people -pleasing attribute ! It is an exhibition of appealing human behaviour

Why is it important for us?

In my opinion, it is a valuable praise-worthy attribute we should develop to avoid getting into a negative pool of mess!

It is important to display a pleasant behaviour in public and also with our own-self for a sane mindset

Do we see this praise-worthy behaviour or any tantrum-oriented behaviour in adults?

Yes, we do see the varied behavioural pattern in adults too .

2. Best virtues to display positive behavior with good positive discipline:

Being humane encompasses many good virtues like-

a) Being kind, content and truthful to others

b) Respecting others, their time and space

c) Being a good listener, poise and not overshadowing others’ persona

d) Being responsible, empathetic and sensitive to the circumstantial demands

e) Showing gratitude

What happens if we show an inappropriate or a hurtful behaviour?

With repeated confrontations, our persona is valued less and we get distanced, from our acquaintances.

Do we have a solution for developing a non-hurtful behaviour?

This is exactly what we call the grooming of personality with self-discipline. We can do this by harnessing our unruly behavior, if we have any.

This transition into developing good value system comes with a repeated exposure to a number of others’ good circumstantial behaviour

3. Do you Hyperventilate for anintolerant behaviour ?Time to Retrospect ..

Have you ever wondered why your child is not obeying you? Why do you end up screaming?

Feel lost or helpless with your adamant child?

a woman screaming, hyperventilating , positive discipline — Photo by Ketut Subiyanto on Pexels.com

Let us look at your behaviour and your child’s innocence –

As an adult, you have to prove your accountability, if you disobey or procrastinate or don’t stand out in finishing your task on time. Do you exhibit modest and socially approvable behavior in front of your child?
By the way, will your child ever know, to what extent he/she would be held responsible or accountable for not obeying? undoubtedly, your child understands that either it will get shouting from you or a nice cover-up
In reality, you go to the extent of becoming a cover-up.
For all the wrong reasons, your Cover-up to become your child’s protective shield to save your own face can be dangerous.
When you make an observation, of your own behavior, you realize where you are going wrong.

4. In the first place, why does it happen? why do we regret it?

Ask yourself a series of questions, you will find the answer for each one of them.

Why doesn’t my child show an accountability?
Does my child know that he/she is getting groomed, by me, with high expectations?
Is non-obeying, a kind of retaliation displayed by the child? (spiteful behavior towards me !? )
Why doesn’t my child show an honest and reliable personality traits/virtues?
Was each positive behavior ignored by me, in the past, with no appreciation? introspect yourself, right?
Is the positive behavior or otherwise shown verbally or in non-verbal gestures too?
Can the behaviour be forgiven? (If yes, please do so)
Does grooming need any behaviour-correction by me?

Before answering the above questions, think. Think about a spectrum of scenario, which your child might have had witnessed earlier!

Had he/she ever watched you giving excuses by not being sincere?
Had he/she watched you missing your commitments and hiding your humiliation?
Had he/she watched you escaping without apologizing?
Had you ever encouraged your child to postpone/procrastinate his/her tasks for the sake of your convenience?

5. Do you have to compromise?

Does the post mean that we need to shove in our pent- up emotions and should always display a positive behaviour?

Not really, it needs training- in your behavior in public and you are obligated to do so.
while setting the rule, consider the age of the child and apply the correction
Remember, you have every right to show your displeasure, when hurt, with the use of kind, convincing words
when you don’t talk to your child for a while, the situation allows the child to think about its own behaviour

What can we do if someone repeatedly humiliates us at home or school or the workplace?

You can forgive the innocent child/ growing adolescent and teach the appropriate behaviour with patience
You have to make the wrong-doer understand where he/ she has faltered.
You have to educate the child about the intensity of the unworthy consequence which gets created in the long run.
In my opinion, why don’t you try this easy tip for correcting intimidating behaviour? Allow your child to witness someone’s good behaviour and the attention garnered for the exemplary behaviour
Reinforce positive discipline and take the help of counselors

6. WHILE APPLYING RULES AND CONSEQUENCES

Refrain from hurting the child’s self-esteem by instilling shame, guilt, loss of trust, or a sense of abandonment. For additional information visit NCBI.NIH
Use time-out judiciously
Do reinforce corrected behavior as often as you can to show ‘how much you love your child and not mean always’
Above all, consider the age of the child and it’s weaknesses

What is the reward if your child turns out to be an honest, reliable human being?

Interestingly, with appealing behaviour, your child can be an asset at home, school, workplace and everywhere !!

7. For the Parents or the Teachers, is there any ‘Takeaway’ from the post ?!

You would be modeling as a big mirror in molding your child’s behavior with responsibility!! If you have not, you might have dirtied your own hands !!

Positive-Self Discipline is the key!

Did you find any takeaway from this post to correct your behavior to reach the glory?

Oops, My Words Have Power!